Motivating Your Teen | Chore Routines

By Katie LouiseApril 28, 2018

Getting your teens to help out around the house.

I am now going to share with you what has worked for our busy family being a parent of two teenage daughters I know first-hand how challenging it can be to get them to help out around the house from time to time. Not only does it help us out it is also teaching them a little bit of responsibility and teaching them life skills they need when they leave home to be able to fend for themselves.

  • Rember to be patient, it will not happen overnight - It takes 21 days to form a habit

Motivating your teen

Talk openly and honestly with your teen about the chores which you would like for them to be responsible for, explain why they need to help around the house. Constantly nagging makes them less likely to carry out the simplest of task you may have asked them to do. Around the house, will only leave you feeling frustrated and your teen angry, as will asking them to do a job straight out of the blue.

  • Set a deadline for the tasks to be carried out, giving them full flexibility when they carry out their tasks set for them.
  • Give them complete responsibility for the task, don’t tell them how you think they should be carried out or where to start.

Sometimes it’s not down to the fact that your teen is not necessarily motivated to carry out these simple day to day tasks. Teens have a lot going on hormones; it could be school down to revising for exams, homework, maybe their friendship circle making it very easy for them to be distracted.

Help them to remember their chores

  • Help them get into a routine.
  • Leave pointers & tips for the task they need to carry out.
  • Leave a chore rota on display.
  • Make it achievable.
Top tips – Set up Apple family this will ping little reminders on their mobile devices, this way you don’t need to nag. It gives you full control when and how often they get reminded; it can be set up for each family member.
Trello app is a great alternative to apple family.
Lead by example including yourself in the chore list, so your teen sees you carrying out and marking off your tasks when they have been completed.

 Phrases you will hear A LOT:

  • I’ll do it later
  • I’ll do it in a minute
  • It’s not fair

The first thing that will go through your teens head when being asked to carry out a task will be – What is in it for them, why should I?!

“You need to do what I have asked you to do, to do what it is you would like to be doing!”

Rewarding your teen

I provide my teen with what they need, not everything they want. I am teaching my child a good work ethic by rewarding them with spends for carrying out their chores for them to save and buy those things that they want. If you don’t want to reward your teen with spends, you can plan an exciting family trip out. If the tasks are not complete with your time frame, then there is no reward. Most importantly I always like to thank my teen when all our tasks are complete.

I hope you found this information useful

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46 comments on “Motivating Your Teen | Chore Routines”

  1. I need to do this with my teen. He can be quite lazy at times. I need to make sure he is doing chores. And keeping his room clean. It can get pretty gross.

  2. These sound like some great ways to try and get your child into doing some jobs around the house. I don't have kids myself but 100% sometimes I need motivating myself lol.

  3. Wow this is such a helpful article for a new mommy. I totally agree one must explain to them rather than nagging or scolding.

  4. I love to read this kind of articles. It's nice to know what kind of chores are perfect for what kind of ages. It's also a huge help when the kid is doing his chores.

  5. My kids are helpful but they are not as neat as I would like them to be. I come home with almost nowhere to step on, even though we have packed their stuff the night before. If I leave them to themselves ugh...they cannot finish packing. 🙁

  6. Oh gosh, it can be so hard to get them moving! These are some stellar tips and I sure hope they help lol

  7. Very helpful post for parents. I dont have kids but I am sharing your words. Hope this is going to help many. Thanks for sharing

  8. Great tips! My parents only had to give me and my brother "the look" to get us to do our chores! lol. I got rewards for good grades, but never for doing chores. I still think these are really good tips!

  9. These are great ways to motivate your teens into doing chores. Kids today are o glued to their phones and computer and seem to forget about chores. I think that rewarding is a great incentive.

  10. Great tips! My parents only had to give me and my brother "the look" to get us to do our chores! lol. I got rewards for good grades, but never for doing chores. I still think these are really good tips!

  11. Having teenagers is so hard! I have two of them right now, and it's like pulling teeth to get them to help. I've learned that making their privileges (like cell phones) contingent on their contribution to the household is very effective.

  12. Looks like great tips for teens and helps to keep going without being lazy and understanding responsibility. Thanks for sharing.

  13. Wow this is such a helpful article for a new mommy. I totally agree one must explain to them rather than nagging or scolding.

  14. I love to read this kind of articles. It's nice to know what kind of chores are perfect for what kind of ages. It's also a huge help when the kid is doing his chores.

  15. I need to do this with my teen. He can be quite lazy at times. I need to make sure he is doing chores. And keeping his room clean. It can get pretty gross.

  16. These sound like some great ways to try and get your child into doing some jobs around the house. I don't have kids myself but 100% sometimes I need motivating myself lol.

  17. Very helpful post for parents. I dont have kids but I am sharing your words. Hope this is going to help many. Thanks for sharing

  18. My kids are helpful but they are not as neat as I would like them to be. I come home with almost nowhere to step on, even though we have packed their stuff the night before. If I leave them to themselves ugh...they cannot finish packing. 🙁

  19. Oh gosh, it can be so hard to get them moving! These are some stellar tips and I sure hope they help lol

  20. Looks like great tips for teens and helps to keep going without being lazy and understanding responsibility. Thanks for sharing.

  21. Having teenagers is so hard! I have two of them right now, and it's like pulling teeth to get them to help. I've learned that making their privileges (like cell phones) contingent on their contribution to the household is very effective.

  22. These are great ways to motivate your teens into doing chores. Kids today are o glued to their phones and computer and seem to forget about chores. I think that rewarding is a great incentive.