I am now going to share with you what has worked for our busy family being a parent of two teenage daughters I know first-hand how challenging it can be to get them to help out around the house from time to time. Not only does it help us out it is also teaching them a little bit of responsibility and teaching them life skills they need when they leave home to be able to fend for themselves.
Talk openly and honestly with your teen about the chores which you would like for them to be responsible for, explain why they need to help around the house. Constantly nagging makes them less likely to carry out the simplest of task you may have asked them to do. Around the house, will only leave you feeling frustrated and your teen angry, as will asking them to do a job straight out of the blue.
Sometimes it’s not down to the fact that your teen is not necessarily motivated to carry out these simple day to day tasks. Teens have a lot going on hormones; it could be school down to revising for exams, homework, maybe their friendship circle making it very easy for them to be distracted.
The first thing that will go through your teens head when being asked to carry out a task will be – What is in it for them, why should I?!
“You need to do what I have asked you to do, to do what it is you would like to be doing!”
I provide my teen with what they need, not everything they want. I am teaching my child a good work ethic by rewarding them with spends for carrying out their chores for them to save and buy those things that they want. If you don’t want to reward your teen with spends, you can plan an exciting family trip out. If the tasks are not complete with your time frame, then there is no reward. Most importantly I always like to thank my teen when all our tasks are complete.
I hope you found this information useful