Motivating Your Teen

Motivating Your Teen | Chore Routines

Getting your teens to help out around the house.

Are you looking for ways to motivate your teen?

I am now going to share with you what has worked for our busy family. Being a parent of two teenage daughters, I know first-hand how challenging it can be to get them to help out around the house from time to time. But, not only does it help us out, but it also teaches them a little bit of responsibility and teaches them life skills they need when they leave home to fend for themselves.

  • Rember to be patient. It will not happen overnight – It takes 21 days to form a habit.

Motivating your teen

Talk openly and honestly with your teen about the chores you would like to be responsible for and explain why they need to help around the house. Constantly nagging makes them less likely to carry out the simplest tasks you may have asked them to do. Around the house will only leave you feeling frustrated and your teen angry, as will asking them to do a job straight out of the blue.

  • Set a deadline for the tasks to be carried out, giving them full flexibility when they carry out their tasks set for them.
  • Give them complete responsibility for the task, don’t tell them how you think they should be carried out or where to start.

Sometimes it’s not down to the fact that your teen is not necessarily motivated to carry out these simple day to day tasks. Teens have a lot going on hormones; it could be school down to revising for exams, homework, maybe their friendship circle making it very easy for them to be distracted.

Motivate your teen

Help them to remember their chores.

  • Help them get into a routine.
  • Leave pointers & tips for the task they need to carry out.
  • Leave a chore rota on display.
  • Make it achievable.

Top tips – Set up Apple family this will ping little reminders on their mobile devices. This way, you don’t need to nag. In addition, it gives you full control when and how often they get reminded; it can be set up for each family member.

Trello app is a great alternative to the apple family app.

Lead by example, including yourself in the chore list, so your teen sees you carrying out and marking off your tasks when they have been completed.

 Phrases you will hear A LOT:

  • I’ll do it later
  • I’ll do it in a minute
  • It’s not fair

The first thing that will go through your teens head when being asked to carry out a task will be – What is in it for them? Why should I?!

“You need to do what I have asked you to do, to do what it is you would like to be doing!”

Rewarding your teen

I provide my teen with what they need, not everything they want. I am teaching my child a good work ethic by rewarding them with spending money for carrying out their chores to save and buy those things they want. If you don’t want to reward your teen with spends, you can plan an exciting family trip out. If the tasks are not complete with your time frame, then there is no reward. Most importantly, I always like to thank my teen when all our tasks are complete.

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Danielle Wolter
Danielle Wolter
4 years ago

i don’t have kids, but these all sound like great tips. i know as a teen i worked best on a reward basis.

Tara Pittman
4 years ago

My kids know that chores need to be done before they get computer or tv time. They also do not get paid for chores as they are a part of the family.

Patricia-Ann Que
4 years ago

oh my this reminds me of my childhood years! I remember saying all the time it’s not fair but getting into a routine surely helps a lot!

Amber Myers
4 years ago

I need to do this with my teen. He can be quite lazy at times. I need to make sure he is doing chores. And keeping his room clean. It can get pretty gross.

Sarah Bailey
4 years ago

These sound like some great ways to try and get your child into doing some jobs around the house. I don’t have kids myself but 100% sometimes I need motivating myself lol.

Megha
4 years ago

Wow this is such a helpful article for a new mommy. I totally agree one must explain to them rather than nagging or scolding.

Shubh
4 years ago

These are good steps to guide children to be independent. Teenage is the best age to learn such responsibilities.

Nabanita Dhar
4 years ago

This is quite nice. Who would have thought we could set up centralised reminders for chores for the family. Will keep this in mind certainly.

Cristina Coroiu
Cristina Coroiu
4 years ago

I love to read this kind of articles. It’s nice to know what kind of chores are perfect for what kind of ages. It’s also a huge help when the kid is doing his chores.

kumamonjeng
4 years ago

The reply of “I will do it later” can be always heard you are so right. Glad to pick up so many tips here and I hope to apply them.

Kitty
4 years ago

Thanks for the post this is very helpful as my kids are growing and I was wondering how moms handle their teens ???

Raina
4 years ago

Great tips! We are struggling with getting our teen to do simple chores. I may have to try a few of these out.

Alisha
4 years ago

This may be even useful for the younger ones too! Great tips and thanks for sharing!

Mommy Sigrid
4 years ago

My kids are helpful but they are not as neat as I would like them to be. I come home with almost nowhere to step on, even though we have packed their stuff the night before. If I leave them to themselves ugh…they cannot finish packing. 🙁

Alexandra Cook
Alexandra Cook
4 years ago

Oh gosh, it can be so hard to get them moving! These are some stellar tips and I sure hope they help lol

Sundeep
Sundeep
4 years ago

Very helpful post for parents. I dont have kids but I am sharing your words. Hope this is going to help many. Thanks for sharing

Latte Lindsay
4 years ago

I’m terrible! I try the internet off and don’t switch it back on until they do their chores 😀 It keeps them focused 😉

Ladonna Batiste
4 years ago

These are great ways to motivate your teens into doing chores. Kids today are o glued to their phones and computer and seem to forget about chores. I think that rewarding is a great incentive.

Monique
Monique
4 years ago

Great tips! My parents only had to give me and my brother “the look” to get us to do our chores! lol. I got rewards for good grades, but never for doing chores. I still think these are really good tips!

Karen Monica
4 years ago

Parents will thank you for this tips. I know its never easy to ask teens to do chores. My cousins always complain about their teen kids.

Heather
4 years ago

Having teenagers is so hard! I have two of them right now, and it’s like pulling teeth to get them to help. I’ve learned that making their privileges (like cell phones) contingent on their contribution to the household is very effective.

Devyani
Devyani
4 years ago

My son is 5 and I am
Already assigning him simple household chores. These are some great tips !

Bindu Thomas
Bindu Thomas
4 years ago

Looks like great tips for teens and helps to keep going without being lazy and understanding responsibility. Thanks for sharing.

Tara Pittman
4 years ago

My kids know that chores need to be done before they get computer or tv time. They also do not get paid for chores as they are a part of the family.

Danielle Wolter
Danielle Wolter
4 years ago

i don’t have kids, but these all sound like great tips. i know as a teen i worked best on a reward basis.

Patricia-Ann Que
4 years ago

oh my this reminds me of my childhood years! I remember saying all the time it’s not fair but getting into a routine surely helps a lot!

Megha
4 years ago

Wow this is such a helpful article for a new mommy. I totally agree one must explain to them rather than nagging or scolding.

Nabanita Dhar
4 years ago

This is quite nice. Who would have thought we could set up centralised reminders for chores for the family. Will keep this in mind certainly.

Cristina Coroiu
Cristina Coroiu
4 years ago

I love to read this kind of articles. It’s nice to know what kind of chores are perfect for what kind of ages. It’s also a huge help when the kid is doing his chores.

kumamonjeng
4 years ago

The reply of “I will do it later” can be always heard you are so right. Glad to pick up so many tips here and I hope to apply them.

Shubh
4 years ago

These are good steps to guide children to be independent. Teenage is the best age to learn such responsibilities.

Amber Myers
Amber Myers
4 years ago

I need to do this with my teen. He can be quite lazy at times. I need to make sure he is doing chores. And keeping his room clean. It can get pretty gross.

Sarah Bailey
4 years ago

These sound like some great ways to try and get your child into doing some jobs around the house. I don’t have kids myself but 100% sometimes I need motivating myself lol.

Raina
4 years ago

Great tips! We are struggling with getting our teen to do simple chores. I may have to try a few of these out.

Sundeep
Sundeep
4 years ago

Very helpful post for parents. I dont have kids but I am sharing your words. Hope this is going to help many. Thanks for sharing

Alisha
4 years ago

This may be even useful for the younger ones too! Great tips and thanks for sharing!

Monique
Monique
4 years ago

Great tips! My parents only had to give me and my brother “the look” to get us to do our chores! lol. I got rewards for good grades, but never for doing chores. I still think these are really good tips!

Kitty
4 years ago

Thanks for the post this is very helpful as my kids are growing and I was wondering how moms handle their teens ???

Mommy Sigrid
4 years ago

My kids are helpful but they are not as neat as I would like them to be. I come home with almost nowhere to step on, even though we have packed their stuff the night before. If I leave them to themselves ugh…they cannot finish packing. 🙁

Alexandra Cook
Alexandra Cook
4 years ago

Oh gosh, it can be so hard to get them moving! These are some stellar tips and I sure hope they help lol

Latte Lindsay
4 years ago

I’m terrible! I try the internet off and don’t switch it back on until they do their chores 😀 It keeps them focused 😉

Bindu Thomas
Bindu Thomas
4 years ago

Looks like great tips for teens and helps to keep going without being lazy and understanding responsibility. Thanks for sharing.

Karen Monica
4 years ago

Parents will thank you for this tips. I know its never easy to ask teens to do chores. My cousins always complain about their teen kids.

Devyani
Devyani
4 years ago

My son is 5 and I am
Already assigning him simple household chores. These are some great tips !

Heather
4 years ago

Having teenagers is so hard! I have two of them right now, and it’s like pulling teeth to get them to help. I’ve learned that making their privileges (like cell phones) contingent on their contribution to the household is very effective.

Ladonna Batiste
4 years ago

These are great ways to motivate your teens into doing chores. Kids today are o glued to their phones and computer and seem to forget about chores. I think that rewarding is a great incentive.

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